(Really, must finish these on one sitting…)
Being Deaf-Blind does have certain advantages: namely I can’t hear or clearly see people bickering about this or that.. By people I mean random people on the street, at the bus shelter, at a restaurant, at a store etc…
You can rest assured that I will not be explaining what I saw or heard about Bob punching Brad in the head. Sure, I could see them standing, facing each other, on the street, but their expressions, body language, and dialogue is beyond my ability to comprehend. Heck, they could be talking about wedding plans, picking up dog poop or yelling about “You stole my parking spot!”
In the same sense, I could not play peacemaker and offer rational alternatives when two women are yelling and screaming at each other, heatedly, loudly, over the last limited edition Bacon flavored Spam at No Frills. What they are saying is, again, beyond my ability to understand.
(I would probably pass them quietly, and grab the can of Spam off the shelf. That would surely end their argument. Wicked grin!)
Basically I would turn a blind eye and deaf ear, literally and figuratively, and walk away. I do this because I cannot hear or see what is happening. Which leads to the aforementioned advantage. Hooray Deaf-Blind!
However, that rule changes when my children are arguing or fighting.
My sons are 11 and 6 and they usually argue over technology, who’s turn is it, bedtime, bath time, and a whole bunch of other stuff. This is by no means different from any other parent. From Adam & Eve right up to today, offspring arguing is a fact of life that every parent must endure.
Nonetheless, my issue is; I can’t hear what they are arguing about, nor can I see specifically what they are fighting about. Of course, I can see them punching each other but why? I can’t figure that out. I need to separate them, then ask one boy and then the other. “What are you arguing about?” Sometimes they answer in signs, sometimes just by pointing.
Usually after a few minutes, I can get them sorted out and back to normal. If my wife is not home. If she is home, they typically rush to Mommy, because she can hear them. And then I need to explain from my diminished abilities, who said what, or did what. It can be very frustrating at times.
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