Do you ever get the feeling…

…that you are being watched?

I am sure that you do, it is a common thread of life.


Whether on a subway/Skytrain, in a Walmart or bank, or just cruising the mall.  People are watching people!

Maybe to offer help or to stop thieving, or to greet an old friend  The list is endless.

My point, is people who are thoughtful enough to offer their arm when they spot me walking along with my white cane.  I think that is great!  Just the other day; four different people at four different places with an hour all thought I was in distress and offered to guide me.

Bravo spotters!

99% of the time I turn them away with a big smile and the classic thumb up.  Why?  Well, I can see good enough to know there is no cars nearby that can maul me down, I also know where I am going.  But, more so, how do I voice my destination?  Will the person know ASL? Unlikely.  I often keep going, maybe signing “me deaf” or something like that.

But what happens when I am using my walker? The response is different, people do not identify a person using a walker as someone who needs help seeing things.  When I am using my walker, people are more likely to give me their seats on buses or skytrain.

Different disability devices, lead to different responses.  Yet people are still watching, and that is always a good thing.

I’ll close this blog with a good deed that I did two weeks ago, that implies that watching goes both ways.

I was walking to the gate for entrance to the skytrain, using my walker.  There was a mother and her 2 year old child not far behind me, the child was walking, but mom had a stroller.  I went through the gate, and spied the child was following me.  So, I stopped in the middle of the gate, bent down to stop her, and looked back to see if her mom was calling her.  Obviously mommy did call, because the girl turned around and toddled back.  The crisis was averted.  What crisis?  The gate closes automatically after one passes through; if the child followed me through, who knows what would have happened next.  There would be, naturally, a lot of screaming.

Observing others works both ways, non-disabled can watch out for disabled, and, lesser known, Disabled helping non-disabled.



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